[grc] About Donna DiBianco!

[Paul Bame]

Great idea!

     ... of course you may remember that I've been kicked out of a
     station, and also taught a course about conflict some years ago at
     GRC. you may or may not know that I also work in a transformative
     justice framework with survivors of sexual assault, where
     trauma-related personality struggles in relationship with others
     are frequent factors

I find myself hoping that Peyton weighs in on this, because it is
so difficult to sail these waters sometimes.  I also recommend the
appropriately-named chapter in Starhawk's "The Empowerment Manual"
for a humanistic approach.  Tough thing is that sometimes /we/ are
the difficult ones, and it is not always possible for us to see or
understand that is so, and sometimes that blindness is a necessary
coping mechanism for our mental health (often due to severe trauma), so
this shit's complex.

I also recommend the section on "skills for dealing" in this article,
which sadly is not available at its original location.  It is really
just good advice, not just for folks with the labeled difficulty, and
highlights indirectly how easy it is to participate unwittingly in
bad group dynamics by not having a handle on our own healthy boundaries.
http://poisonfornarcissist.blogspot.com/2010/07/impact-of-narcissism-on-leadership-and_23.html



			-p